I am back!!

I have finally come back. Yay!

So, I want to talk about something that is more relevant to me today. And, something that I actually would love to study someday as a sociologist.

I am a gay man. And I have gay friends. And I have noticed something interesting in that group. Perhaps what I have seen is just localized to my friend group, I cannot speak to the validity of that (thus why I want to study it) but it is possible, so keep that in mind.

Anyway, what I have noticed is that gay men seem to have a co-socialization going on inside of their group. On one end, I think that gay men are socialized as men... to be masculine and have those traits. Perhaps in the form of violent masculinity, but more of what I have seen has been that damn sense of entitlement. That men can just take what they want, use it, throw it away and not think twice about it. Furthermore, I feel like a great portion of "attractiveness" from a guy comes from how many sexual partners he has had. The greater the number, the greater the level of attractiveness, or maybe "coolness".

At the same time, I think that gay men are socialized as a woman would be in our society. Obsessed with outward image, and ideal physical forms. A gay man is not good enough unless he has the perfect body, the perfect face, and shan't we forget about the penis. It better be a good one. And anything less, is just... not good enough. This I know is a reality. I've already read several papers this summer on this very phenomena. Gay men have a greater level of bodily dissatisfaction than heterosexual men. And even though they might be cooler or more attractive with that higher number... they are still sluts.

And maybe this is just for some. Perhaps this is just how the more "middle ground" homosexuals feel (e.g., not hyper masculine or feminine in behaviors). Perhaps when you move to either side of the spectrum... very masculine gay men, or very feminine gay men... things are different. I do not know.

But, either way, it is something interesting to consider. And regardless of the large scale significance, it is something that I know I've had to deal with.